Slowing down……such a foreign concept to me for several years until I settled down in the south. As a single mom slowing down is a challenge everyday because there is always something to do on the checklist. However, in the last two years I have been challenged to slow down and really embrace the present moment. The present moment is crystallized by focusing on the now. The “now” moments are the moments we can never gain back. If this is true, then why do we rush through one event to the next?
Lately, I have been intrigued with going a lot slower in my everyday life. It has made a big difference in my mindset. Although, the holidays are here I am truly embracing slow motion. In my pursuit of this new lifestyle I have came across the word hygge (hoo-gah) practiced by the Danish culture. This lifestyle is a Danish concept that has been popping up everywhere I go. I can’t remember exactly where I heard it but I have been researching a little deeper about this concept. For a long time there was no formal definition for this word however, more Americans have become aware of this concept.
The holidays is great time to practice this Danish concept especially since Thanksgiving and Christmas is right around the corner. I don’t believe in putting concepts in a box so you have the power to rearrange it the way it fits your life. For example, hygge to me is drinking hot cocoa, tea or wine during the winter months, watching a movie, reading a book and spending some quality time with my daughter.
No matter what concept, tradition or non-tradition you practice slowing down and enjoying the moment should be apart of your daily regiment.
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When was the last time you commune with the people you love? No, I am not talking about taking communion at church but that is a great place to start. However, I am simply talking about exchanging intimate thoughts, feelings & dialogue with the people you love. In a fast paced world we rarely take the time to simply sit down, share & create intimate moments.
Communion is an important part of learning the meaning of intimacy beyond physical touch.
Communion teaches us how to connect on a soul to soul level without outside distractions. Communion does not have to be perceived as exchanging dialogue sometimes the silence between two people can create a perfect moment of intimacy.
Life can get busy but relishing in the company of those who are dear to us could be the most enjoyable feeling in the world. Human interactions can have the capacity to increase enjoyment, fulfillment and eliminate depression. If there is more positive results from communing then why do we do it less? Well I believe people commune less because they have become intimate with other things such as social media, computer games etc. Americans spend more time on their computers, phones and engaging in TV more so than spending time reading or creating intimate moments with family & friends.
Here are three tips to establish the artistry of communion.
1) Cop A Squat: In the movie Pretty Woman I remember a scene where Julia Roberts character encourages Richard Gere’s character to take a day off from work and enjoy life. In one of the scenes they were in the park where she told him to cop a squat. Cop a squat imply means sit down. Take some time to stop everything your doing & sit down with the people who matter the most.
2) Carve Out Time. Time is something we can never get back. Time with the people we love is never wasted so set a date or time to bring back intimacy in your important relationships.
3) Eat Together. The best way to commune & create intimacy is by eating your dinner meal together as a family or even with friends. This type of communion gives everyone time to share, laugh & enjoy the taste of their food.
Communing has the power to create intimacy, love & joy for everyone who participates in building long lasting relationships.