There Is No Competition

You can access this podcast episode here: https://tinyurl.com/yzej4e8w

You: Mirror, mirror on the wall; who is the best of them all?

Mirror: You are my darling.

What if we believed that we were the best instead of comparing ourselves with someone else?

In a show and tell world, we have become fixated with keeping up with the Joneses instead of concentrating on our own life. Social media has made it easy to play the game of comparison with strangers we never met. The small reel of a moment in someone’s life makes us question our whole existence. Why do we give social media, people & society so much power?

The concept of competing is ideal in sports, but it becomes messy when we start to feel like we are in competition with others. When we try to constantly keep up with the progression of others, we lose momentum in our life.

 I remember when I went through a period when I tried to help, coach, and counsel everyone else. My life was falling apart while others were thriving; from my advice, I became the poster child for fixing everyone’s life but my own. I began to feel depleted and used. And I realized people were only calling me to discard their problems on me. They felt better but I carried the emotional weight. Overall, I was enabling a toxic cycle in my life.

In the last couple of years, I have set boundaries, let go of toxic behavior and patterns while loving people from a distance. And I have decided to incorporate a life of minding my own business, which brings me peace. Although we reside in an oversaturated technology-induced world, we can still find ways to unplug from the virtual world and plug into our real life.

When we begin to assess what we don’t desire in our lives, we can build a life we love versus numbing out from a life we hate. 

Below are some basic ways you can let go of comparison & compete with becoming the best version of yourself.

  1. Mind Your Own Business. When you feel the need to give your opinion or advice, think before you speak and ask yourself, did the person ask for my opinion?  Here is a podcast episode where I discuss more on the concept of minding your own business & my journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gw9AGLGturk  

2. Find Ways To Improve Your Life. Yes, it is tempting to scroll on social media, watch TV, judge celebrities and judge others but think about improving your life. Judging others is a reflection of your own insecurities. 

Here is a podcast episode where I discuss creating a life you love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xX8MfWIU29E

3. More Focus & Less Distractions. Frequently we try to escape the unpleasant things in our life because we don’t want to face reality. However, if we let go of the temporary mindless distractions, we can meet each situation with grace and love. Here is a podcast episode where I discuss ways you can create an intentional life to stay focus & eliminate distractions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtGM_GKHp68

The Lost Art of Conversation

 


Somewhere lost in a timeless warp, where meaningful words use to be more appealing than texting or holding a conversation through the computer. Technology has made us lazy as we use social media and texting as a way to hold conversations when these things truly hinder the art of conversation.

I remember living in a world where you would talk on the porch to family and friends for hours savoring the moments. In this new millennium technology has handicapped us from learning how to evoke meaningful conversations. I believe social media has disabled our younger generation because they lose themselves in social media without becoming social within the world around them. The biggest question to ask is how can we get back to the beautiful art of conversation with a social media and text induced world?

The greatest way to tap back into the real world is log out from the virtual world. There should be a healthy balance of technology verses real life conversation. Real life conversations teaches us how to socialize with one another, it teaches us how to listen, pause and interpret someones words as well as body language. When we are holding conversations through text or social media we misconstrue what a person may say.

 In order, for us to reconnect to realistic, meaningful & authentic relationships we have to be willing to unplug  from social media and become sociable with the world around us. When we evoke intimate one on one conversations we are more fulfilled and happy in our lives.

The art of conversation can be rekindled in this saturated age of technology by:

1) Unplugging. Taking a digital detox from social media.
2) Reconnect. Making time to reconnect back to real relationships before social media became your primary outlet.
3) Vacate. Get out the house & meet new people.
4) Off Button. Turn off your phone for an hour or so to live in the moment & be mindful of the present.
5) Live in the moment. We miss out on intimate connections with the people we love because we share every moment on social media. Take some time to savor the moment & keep your memories secrete without sharing everything on your social media sites.